Why adoption and fostering goes wrong

 “One leading adoption charity estimates that a third of adoptions break down these days”.

A child doesn't really remember a lot about crisis due to the trauma of being taken away from its birth parents but the child's sub consciousness never forgets and there is always that longing for the mother’s love that can never be satisfied by adoption or fostering. A child should be kept in the family as close to the birth parents as much as possible.

If this is not done a child subconsciously hankers for the love he/she was deprived of when it first left the womb and maybe before that. 

This subconscious yen not being fulfilled along with memories that come back as the child grows up causes frustration/ anger/ resentment and the child becomes bitter and unmanageable.

That is why kinship care should be the very first point of care when children are deprived of their parents.

The care system only caters for the physical child not the emotional or spiritual child because of social services cost policy. Cut backs now will cost the public purse a whole lot more in the future when the children that go through the care system turn out to be gang members.

There is a huge rise of gangs reported in the media lately it would be interesting too research into how many of the gang members were brought up outside their birth family.