The Forgotten Children of Drug and Alcohol abuse.

The forgotten children are children that are in a drug or alcohol home where no-one can get to them if they are being abused until the unthinkable happens. There is a 37% rise in drug and alcohol fatalities (one nearly every day) “Who” is looking out for these children that are involved? No-one! No one is permitted to contact them if the resident parent wishes it and they can have the full force of the law behind them..

Children’s agencies say they can only cope with half the calls they receive and can only act when the abuse has been recognized, that is usually when a child has been badly abused or worse. This is a gap in child protection that only grandparents could fill because of their unique relationship and love for their grandchildren; creating a much needed helpline to someone they can trust. Grandparents know their own children and have the special insight as to how their grandchildren are being treated.

A secret abuser of a child can  get a court order with or without good reason banning a non-resident parent or grandparents from seeing the children when all they want is to know are the children safe? Surely this is in the best interests of a child? Every one who loves them should be able to have some contact in case of problems in their lives. A stranger is allowed to come and go any night and has abused and murdered a child. Non-resident parents and grandparents are enraged at this powerlessness to protect their own children.

The above was put to the previous Scottish Executive by Grandparents Apart Self Help Group Scotland their answer was “we have nothing further to add to our previous correspondence with you”  Turning a blind eye will not make the abuse go away. It is obvious they had no answers to this problem. They have previously stated they also have no answer to non-compliance of court orders.

The unique relationship children could have with their grandparents must be explored and supported to the full for the welfare of our children. There is an army of grandparents out there where the majority of them would be delighted to help by early intervention should problems arise in their offspring’s home. For example, if their mum or dad is unable to look after them it would benefit the child to be cared for in a known home environment until they can be returned to their parents rather than being taken to strangers. The effects of total exclusion from their birth family can be with them all their lives and lead to insecurity and problems in society.