As manager of Grandparents Apart UK
Yesterday two grannies’ contacted me and the both of them had the same thing to tell me. The one gran said she had been lied to by the social worker that was involved with her granddaughter. The other gran said exactly the same and could not believe when I told her I often get reports about social workers to lying to grandparents because they have no rights to their grandchildren. “ I thought it was me getting it wrong she said I never for thought a moment a government department would act like that.
Social workers are never reprimanded for telling lies to grandparents. “We don’t need to tell you anything” is often said with a smirk.
What kind of people are they that does not let a granny know how her granddaughter is after the granny saved her from being beaten by her mother again (The mother is the granny’s daughter) Just recently the mother injured her daughter so much that the gran said she could not take it anymore. Now the gran and granddaughter lose out on contact.
The violence must have been really bad when a granny informs on her own daughter. Is it a wonder that grandparents try to resolve the problems themselves rather than contact the child snatching social services. How many Forgotten Children are in this position and the abusers can be protected by law. This gran put her granddaughter’s welfare first before herself and has now paid the price.
The Forgotten Children of drug and alcohol abuse.
The forgotten children are children that are caught in a protection gap where no-one can help them if they are being abused until the unthinkable happens and in the situation of a 37% rise in drug and alcohol fatalities (one nearly every day) “Who” is looking out for these children that are involved? No-one! No one is permitted to contact them if the resident parent wishes it.
Children’s agencies say they can only cope with half the calls they receive and can only act when the abuse has been recognized, usually when a child has been badly abused or worse. A gap in child protection that grandparents could fill because of their unique relationship and love for their grandchildren; creating a much needed helpline to someone they can trust. Grandparents know their own children and have the special insight as to how they could treat their grandchildren, especially in drug and alcohol danger homes.
An abuser of a child can get a court order with or without good reason banning a non-resident parent or grandparents from having contact when all they want is to know are the children OK. Surely this is in the best interests of a child? Every one who loves them should be able to have some contact in case of problems in their lives. A stranger is allowed to come and go any night and has abused and murdered a child. Non-resident parents and grandparents are enraged at this powerlessness to protect their own children.
The above was put to the previous Scottish Executive by Grandparents Apart Self Help Group Scotland their answer was “we have nothing further to add to our previous correspondence with you” Turning a blind eye will not make the abuse go away. It is obvious they had no answers to this problem. They have previously stated they also have no answer to non-compliance of court orders.
The unique relationship children could have with their grandparents must be explored and supported to the full for the welfare of our children. There is an army of grandparents out there where the majority of them would be delighted to help in early intervention should problems arise in their offspring’s home. For example, taking care of children and providing them with a known home environment rather than being taken to strangers, especially if their mum or dad is in trouble. The worst thing that can happen to a child at any age is to be parted from the family. The effects of this can be with them all their lives and lead to insecurity and problems in society.
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Jimmy Deuchars
Grandparents Apart UK
0141 882 5658.
They are lying scum bags to get there own way in court
ReplyDeleteYes they know a lot about nothing. They violated patient privacy.
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